Have you ever used this line during a break up? Or, worse, had someone use it on you?

I know I've been on both ends of the story.

Of course, the line is meant to help "soften the blow" for the other person so they don't assume the break up is their fault...

But what the deliverer of the message is blind to (at least in the moment) is that the line is telling the truth...it is actually THEM who is the problem.

People who blame others for their issues, whether it's a break up, being fired from a job, or having to close a business, have a hard time taking responsibility for their life.

Instead of owning up to their part of the whole thing, they point at others to take the hit.

That's not to say that you should stay in a relationship it's bad or that you should keep a business going if it's struggling...

But people who view reality from a clear lens own up to their part in it without feeling the need to wag their finger at someone else.

ACTION:

There's something magical that happens when you take back responsibility for what happens in your life. You can feel that magic yourself.

The next time you feel the urge to point fingers, ask yourself "what part did I play in this and how can I do better next time?"

Until then, get out there and step into growth...

Jerry